Musings on Tango, Sensuality and Spirituality
Tango is not the answer!
It does, however, raise a whole set of fascinating, soul-searching questions. The questions we ask of the tango will determine what we get from the dance (excepting of course, all those delicious and unsettling surprises). Questions keep us persevering when it would be far saner to stay on the couch and nurse one’s fragile ego.
This is the clarion call. Man equals hunter-gatherer equals warrior equals combatant equals equals consumer no longer sustains relationships or life on this planet.
Time to change. Trade in those skates and cleats for dance shoes.
Guys, the deck has been stacked against us.
OK. Not all men. Maybe just me, and those of you with similiar backgrounds and upbringings: White, North American, marginal parenting, maybe a little religion sprinkled in, with a strong emphasis on sports and machismo and little on arts and of course none on dance except to diss it.
All of which amounts to not only shaming or discouraging dance but a conflicted relationship with our bodies generally.
To quote Carlos Gavito, which I do regularly : “We share the lead. I lead for part of the step and then my partner responds in her own time, in her own way. I wait and then I follow.”
This style of call and response is very complex and requires not only refined technique and attention to the music but also an awareness of your partner’s positioning and responsiveness. … Intuitive is the world typically used to describe how the follow responds to the lead.
But there is another, even more fascinating style of communication that I am quite convinced happens in tango….I believe that good dancers communicate telepathically….
Carlos Gavito: “The secret of tango is in this moment of improvisation that happens between the steps.”
The heart of the dance is not the steps but what happens between the steps, where there is no movement, only stillness.
Pepa: Tango is like life itself. If you observe the way you are dancing you can understand what is happening to you in life. When you feel you are disconnected to your partner, you just have to reconnect with yourself. You disconnect from your partner when you are disconnected from yourself. So you need to go back to your axis, but not just your physical axis. You need to recover your emotional axis, to feel yourself.
“Tango is about feeling and sensitivity, otherwise you are just doing gymnastics. You can do all the steps but it has to have the feeling and sensitivity of authentic tango.”
— Carlos Gavito
Feeling and sensitivity are complex concepts and require some arduous exploration. Nonetheless, if we want to tap the depths of the Tango, according to Gavito, it is a requirement.
OK. I am a huge fan. I turn to Carlos Gavito for a succinct quote, I play his instruction videos for classes and even – in my most deluded moments – attempt to model my dancing after him. All of which is somewhat weird given that …
At the bottom of the stately, brocade staircase was posted a picture of an attractive young woman seductively draped in a silky dress, clinging to her dashing partner. Tango lessons, Thursday evening, in the Moroccan room. We signed up immediately.
What was the lure? Did we envision ourselves transformed into the slinky, sexy couple on the brochure? Patricia and I rarely danced and our bodies were far beyond the slinky stage. Perhaps we were in the mood to do something impetuous and risque …
The Tango embodies the most intense confluence of pleasure, sensuality, physicality, and relational dynamics you are going to come across on the dance floor. Strangely, I come away from a night of dancing not with any feeling of romantic attachment, as one might expect, but rather the sense of having been awakened and nurtured at a soul level.