Let’s face it. We are a needy bunch.  We want all the affection and attention we can get. We long to be appreciated and affirmed. We seek to be rocked, comforted, to be touched with gentleness and respect. We need to be assured we are not alone. The solution? … Mirroring.  Okay, this takes us … Read more

Do I enjoy torturing myself? Almost two years into the COVID shut down and I am still playing over and over in my mind those magical moments on the dance floor. Too many to count but I remember distinctly the feeling from every one. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. During this absence, I have … Read more

“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. Attention, taken to its highest degree, is the same thing as prayer. It presupposes faith and love.” Simone Weil  “Love is the quality of attention we pay to things.” J.D. McClatchy. Attentiveness Deep attention is one of the most precious treasures we can share. Attentiveness is … Read more

Tango, Space and Connection But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Khalil Gibran, The Prophet. This beloved poem was written about … Read more

Tango is danced to the beat of the heart…. Only feeling gives it understanding and beauty, which is what … differentiates it from the coarse and mechanical…. We dance the music not the steps. Anyone who aspires to dance never thinks about what he is going to do.  Carlos Gavito Well-spoken by one whose performances … Read more

Jan 8, 2021: The day I fell in love with a sock. Not just any sock mind you. A blue, woollen, ribbed sock. Some context: It was a cold COVID winter day. All the world was a little off-kilter. No normal. Everything was skewed. Even my brain apparently. A real estate agent was coming over to … Read more

The hug is the drug. And such a drug it is. The experience of being held releases a cocktail of chemicals including dopamine, serotonin and endorphins,  oxytocin, (nicknamed the cuddle drug), pretty much the body’s entire arsenal of feel-good chemicals. So with so much of our physiology geared to making this such a great feeling, … Read more

It’s Easter. A time of death and rebirth, endings and new beginnings. The first full moon after the spring equinox. Daffodils pushing up through the crusted soil, cats in heat bawling on fence posts, birds scavenging for fluff and fabric for nest building. The whole world is bursting at the seams ready to give life … Read more

There is a gulf that separates us, one from the other, which we cannot abide. Its persistence haunts us with the spectre that we are alone, islands unto ourselves, neither belonging nor beloved. Our entire lives, we strive to bridge that gulf, to find identity in belonging to community, to claim a special place in … Read more

To everything there is a season, … A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance… The Book of Ecclesiastes.   Let’s face it. These times are painful – for everyone. We were not made to isolate. We are social creatures. We gain our sense of … Read more