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The hug is the drug. And such a drug it is. The experience of being held releases a cocktail of chemicals including dopamine, serotonin and endorphins,  oxytocin, (nicknamed the cuddle drug), pretty much the body’s entire arsenal of feel-good chemicals. So with so much of our physiology geared to making this such a great feeling, … Read more

It’s Easter. A time of death and rebirth, endings and new beginnings. The first full moon after the spring equinox. Daffodils pushing up through the crusted soil, cats in heat bawling on fence posts, birds scavenging for fluff and fabric for nest building. The whole world is bursting at the seams ready to give life … Read more

To everything there is a season, … A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance… The Book of Ecclesiastes.   Let’s face it. These times are painful – for everyone. We were not made to isolate. We are social creatures. We gain our sense of … Read more

“The real troubles in this world seem to settle on the misalignment of men and women.” Stone Diaries., Carol Sheilds. This is International Women’s Week. I dug into my archives to pull out some material that I feel gives expression to feminine power which deserves to be showcased in Tango as well as in other … Read more

This is an excerpt from a conversation between Valeria Teles and myself, put to graphics. It continues our exploration of Intimacy and the in-between, whether experienced in Tango or in conversation or in the bedroom.

A Waking Ritual, or, Once over easy. For mature eyes only: Excuse me for straying a bit from my Tango monologue (it comes in at the end) and getting a little more personal. Early Morning Rituals The pattern to our early mornings is for the most part set. I rise first, typically before 7:30. There … Read more

Making sense of loss, “Mary Oliver style”. Heather Waldie died this past month at the age of 64 from cancer. She made a deep connection with all of us at Monday Tango Cafe and we are grieving the loss. Join with me in some reflections on Heather’s life and the lasting connection that one makes … Read more

Is tango romantic?

Maybe not so much.
But, but, but, … it looks so romantic, sensual, so steamy.
How it looks and how it feels are not necessarily the same thing.

Follow along to explore the difference …

The longest and most important journey we can take is from our head to our heart, so says traditional wisdom.

Christmas is the season of journeys.

Since there is no spinning around the dance floor this year, what to do? I take a bus-ride through the inner-city! Join me on what turns out to be the longest journey.

There are two questions about sex that confront us at this stage of the game which were never a consideration when we were young: Why and How. Let’s have some fun exploring these.