Musings on Tango, Sensuality and Spirituality
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The Sulphur Gates, in a remote part of northwestern Alberta, is one of the most dramatic river vistas in the Rockies. The stunning viewpoint of the confluence of the Smoky and Sulphur rivers, near Grande Cache, is from the edge of a cliff overhanging the boiling water 300 below where the two rivers merged.
One woman wanted to kick him in the ass. Another wanted to coddle him sympathetically. A few men understood his confliction.
Some of the comments to Lost Love in the Fog, the prologue to my new writing project/ book: The Art of Intimacy: a dance through sex, sensuality and spirituality. I would be delighted to have you join me on this journey and welcome any comments as these will guide my exploration. Vaminos!
Am I going crazy? Or is it just anxiety, or frustration, or paranoia, or discomfort with something different? (I hate change!) Or all of the above?
More remedies for the COVID crazies. Until we can dance again, at least!
It should be an axiom that all human interaction be founded on respect, co-operation, and consent.
Should be …
I gaze out casually, relaxing on our back step, feet up… Bees are frenetically buzzing the purple corn flowers, extracting the nectar with seeming desperation. They sink into its fragrant essence with passion and surrender and refuse to abandon their pursuit until they are satiated with the sweet sustenance.
Oh for the enthusiasm to be so invested in life.
Let’s face it.
It is really tough filling your dance card these days.
But no need to stop dancing! We just have to get creative, dig down to the core of what dancing really means.
The gift of a medium such as dancing, tango, in particular, is that one can learn parameters of safe and sensual touch within precise structural, socially sanctioned guidelines. One is able to experience at a visceral level what it feels like to be close in a supportive, sensual engagement without misinterpreting the contact or intent as sexual.
Are you missing dancing? Of course. We all are! I came across this guest blog from several years back which articulates very clearly why dance is so critical to our social nature and why we want to guard this treasure in our hearts until we can get back onto the dance floor. For the interim, I am writing about what might be appropriate substitutes. See you soon.
This shutdown is the opportunity for a huge reset.
Let’s face it: communicating affection, caring, respect is a very complex and skillful practice. With restrictions in place, this is as good a time as any to figure out what consensual connection really means.
We have the opportunity to explore what is at the heart of connection and is truly nurturing and generative. There are ways to feel deeply connected with others with minimal or no physical contact. We need to learn and relearn every subtle variance and enactment.
Getting through difficult times:
Tony Roberts posed the question to Nelson Mandela – certainly one of the twentieth-century poster-children for overcoming adversity – after his release from 25 years in prison: ‘How did you make it through all those years of suffering? And how did you survive?…. to which Nelson stiffened and responded indignantly, ‘I didn’t survive. I prepared.’